{"id":7267,"date":"2017-05-31T02:46:18","date_gmt":"2017-05-31T02:46:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.rationalargumentator.com\/index\/?p=7267"},"modified":"2017-05-31T02:46:18","modified_gmt":"2017-05-31T02:46:18","slug":"self-esteem-movt-got-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.rationalargumentator.com\/index\/blog\/2017\/05\/self-esteem-movt-got-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"What the Self-Esteem Movement Got Disastrously Wrong &#8211; Article by Dan Sanchez"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/rationalbusinessjournal.rationalargumentator.com\/tophatwhitesm.jpg\" alt=\"The New Renaissance Hat\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><big><big><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Dan Sanchez<\/span><br \/>\n<\/big><\/big><\/strong><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">******************************<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">One of <em>Saturday Night Live\u2019s<\/em> most popular skits in the early 90s was a mock self-help show called \u201cDaily Affirmation with Stuart Smalley.\u201d Smalley, played by now-Senator Al Franken, would begin each show by reciting into the mirror, \u201cI&#8217;m good enough, I&#8217;m smart enough, and, doggone it, people like me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-DIETlxquzY\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">This was a spoof of the \u201cself-esteem movement,\u201d which in the 80s had been all the rage. In that decade, self-esteem became a hot topic for motivational speakers and almost a book genre unto itself. In 1986, California even established a self-esteem \u201cState Task Force.\u201d But by the next decade, the movement had degenerated into an easy late-night punchline. Even today, Smalley\u2019s simpering smile is the kind of image that the term \u201cself-esteem\u201d evokes for many.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Generation Barney<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The self-esteem movement is also widely blamed for its influence on American schools and families. In the name of building self-esteem, teachers and parents showered children with effusive, unconditional praise. In the name of protecting self-esteem, kids were sheltered from any criticism or adverse <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/wise-parenting-uses-natural-consequences-not-artificial-ones\/\">consequences<\/a>. The sugary rot spread to children&#8217;s television as well. Many of today\u2019s young adults were raised on Barney the Dinosaur, who gushed with \u201cfeel-good\u201d affirmations just as sappy as Smalley\u2019s.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">I am reminded of a moment from my own education career in the early 2000s. I had designed a classroom game for preschoolers, and one of my colleagues, a veteran early childhood educator, objected that my game involved competition and winners. \u201cYour game can\u2019t have a winner, because that means other kids will be losers,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">According to critics, this kind of mollycoddling has yielded a millennial generation full of emotionally fragile young adults who, in the workplace, expect praise and affirmation simply for showing up, and who can\u2019t cope with (much less adapt to) constructive criticism. It is also partially blamed for the rise of politically-correct university \u201csnowflakes\u201d (aka \u201ccrybullies\u201d) and their petulant demands for \u201csafe spaces\u201d on campus.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>An Unknown Ideal<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Ironically, these criticisms would be heartily endorsed by the father of the self-esteem movement. The whole thing was kicked off by an influential 1969 book titled <em>The Psychology of Self-Esteem<\/em>, written by Nathaniel Branden (1930-2014), a psychotherapist and one-time colleague and lover of Ayn Rand. It was the first of a long series of books by Branden about self-esteem, which included <em>The Disowned Self<\/em> (1971), <em>Honoring the Self<\/em> (1983), <em>How To Raise Your Self-Esteem<\/em> (1987), and <em>The Power of Self-Esteem<\/em> (1992).<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Six-Pillars-Self-Esteem-Definitive-Leading\/dp\/0553374397\"><em>The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem<\/em><\/a> (1994), his definitive book on the subject, Branden expressed deep dissatisfaction with prevailing discussions of the concept, especially after the movement became an explosive fad in the 80s. In that period, the concept of self-esteem was distorted by what Branden called \u201cthe oversimplifications and sugar-coatings of pop psychology.\u201d Branden declared that:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201cI do not share the belief that self-esteem is a gift we have only to claim (by <strong>reciting affirmations<\/strong>, perhaps). On the contrary, its possession over time represents an achievement.\u201d <em>[Emphasis added here and below.]<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">As Branden understood and explained it, self-esteem was an action-oriented, tough-minded concept. If Branden had been Stuart Smalley\u2019s therapist, he would have advised him to stop mouthing empty self-compliments into the mirror and instead to start building real self-esteem through deep reflection and concrete action.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Branden especially deplored how badly education reformers were getting self-esteem wrong. He wrote:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201cWe do not serve the healthy development of young people when we convey that self-esteem may be achieved by reciting \u201cI am special\u201d every day, or by stroking one\u2019s own face while saying \u2018I love me\u2019\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">He elaborated that:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201cI have stressed that <strong>\u2018feel good\u2019 notions are harmful<\/strong> rather than helpful. Yet if one examines the proposals offered to teachers on how to raise students\u2019 self-esteem, many are the kind of trivial nonsense that gives self-esteem a bad name, such as <strong>praising and applauding a child for virtually everything he or she does<\/strong>, dismissing the importance of <strong>objective accomplishments<\/strong>, <strong>handing out gold stars<\/strong> on every possible occasion, and propounding an <strong>\u2018entitlement\u2019 idea of self-esteem<\/strong> that leaves it divorced from both behavior and character. One of the consequences of this approach is to expose the whole self-esteem movement in the schools to ridicule.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Branden further clarified:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201cTherefore, let me stress once again that when I write of self-efficacy or self-respect, I do so in the context of reality, not of feelings generated out of wishes or affirmations or gold stars granted as a <strong>reward for showing up<\/strong>. When I talk to teachers, I talk about reality-based self-esteem. Let me say further that one of the characteristics of persons with healthy self-esteem is that they tend to assess their abilities and accomplishments realistically, neither denying nor exaggerating them.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Other-Esteem<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Branden also criticized those who:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201c\u2026preferred to focus only on how others might wound one\u2019s feelings of worth, not how one might inflict the wound oneself. This attitude is typical of <strong>those who believe one\u2019s self-esteem is primarily determined by other people<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Indeed, what most \u201cself-esteem\u201d advocates fail to understand is that other-reliant \u201cself-esteem\u201d is a contradiction in terms. Far from building self-esteem, many of the counselors, teachers, and parents of yesteryear obstructed its growth by getting kids hooked on a spiritual I.V. drip of external validation. Instead of self-esteem, this created a dependence on \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/are-you-not-selfish-enough\/\">other-esteem<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">It is no wonder then that today we are faced with the (often exaggerated) phenomenon of young, entitled, high-maintenance <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/are-you-not-selfish-enough\/\">validation-junkies<\/a> in the classroom and the workplace. Their self-esteem has been crippled by being, on the one hand, atrophied by the psychic crutches of arbitrary authoritarian approval, and, on the other hand, repeatedly fractured by the psychic cudgels of arbitrary authoritarian disapproval.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Almost entirely\u00a0neglected has been the stable middle ground of letting children learn to spiritually stand, walk, and run on their own: to build the strength of their self-esteem through the experience of <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/spark-and-fuel-how-to-help-your-child-learn-without-resorting-to-compulsion\/\">self-directed\u00a0pursuits<\/a>,\u00a0setting\u00a0their <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/are-you-not-selfish-enough\/\">own standards<\/a>, and adapting to the <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/wise-parenting-uses-natural-consequences-not-artificial-ones\/\">natural consequences<\/a> of the real world.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Branden also noted that self-esteem is not promoted by:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\u201c\u2026identifying self-worth with membership in a particular group (<strong>\u201cethnic pride\u201d<\/strong>) rather than with personal character. Let us remember that <strong>self-esteem pertains to that which is open to our volitional choice<\/strong>. It cannot properly be a function of the family we were born into, or our race, or the color of our skin, or the achievements of our ancestors. These are values people sometimes cling to in order to avoid responsibility for achieving <strong>authentic self-esteem<\/strong>. They are sources of <strong>pseudo self-esteem<\/strong>. Can one ever take legitimate pleasure in any of these values? Of course. Can they ever provide temporary support for fragile, growing egos? Probably. But they are not substitutes for consciousness, responsibility, or integrity. They are not sources of self-efficacy and self-respect. They can, however, become sources of self-delusion.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">This helps to explain the emotional fragility of young people obsessed with \u201cidentity politics,\u201d especially the <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/trump-s-ego-is-actually-too-small\/\">perverse pride in group victimhood<\/a> that pervades the campus left. It also speaks to the agitation and resentment of today\u2019s crop of white nationalists and other right-wing \u201cidentitarians.\u201d As Ayn Rand wrote:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">&#8220;The overwhelming majority of racists are men who have earned no sense of personal identity, who can claim no individual achievement or distinction, and who seek the illusion of a \u201ctribal self-esteem\u201d by alleging the inferiority of some other tribe.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Authentic self-esteem promotes, not codependency and fragility, but independence, enterprise, resilience, adaptability, and a growth mindset: exactly the character traits that individuals, young and old, need more of in today\u2019s economy and political climate.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">It is nothing short of tragic that the confusions of the so-called self-esteem movement have turned an indispensable concept into an object of ridicule and blame. Far from being the source of our problems, self-esteem is the <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/trump-s-ego-is-actually-too-small\/\">missing solution<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/fee.org\/people\/dan-sanchez\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-6588 alignnone alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.rationalargumentator.com\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Dan-Sanchez-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"dan-sanchez\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><strong>Dan Sanchez<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Dan Sanchez is Managing Editor of\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/\">FEE.org<\/a>.\u00a0His writings are\u00a0collected\u00a0at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dansanchez.me\">DanSanchez.me<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><em>This article was originally published on <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/\">FEE.org<\/a> a<\/em><em>nd may be freely distributed, subject to a <a href=\"http:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\">Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International License<\/a>, which requires that credit be given to the author.<\/em><\/strong> <em><strong>Read the <a href=\"https:\/\/fee.org\/articles\/what-the-self-esteem-movement-got-disastrously-wrong\/\">original article<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dan Sanchez ****************************** One of Saturday Night Live\u2019s most popular skits in the early 90s was a mock self-help show called \u201cDaily Affirmation with Stuart Smalley.\u201d Smalley, played by now-Senator Al Franken, would begin each show by reciting into the mirror, \u201cI&#8217;m good enough, I&#8217;m smart enough, and, doggone it, people like me.\u201d This was a spoof of the \u201cself-esteem movement,\u201d which in the 80s had been all the rage. 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