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G. Stolyarov II and xpallodoc Discuss the Future – Video Interview

G. Stolyarov II and xpallodoc Discuss the Future – Video Interview

On November 30, 2014, Mr. Stolyarov was interviewed by YouTube user xpallodoc, and the wide-ranging discussion encompassed subjects from visions of the future, indefinite life extension and the concept of I-ness, the future of money and economies, technological progress, virtual worlds, political barriers to progress, artificial intelligence, marriage and family, and being part of the push toward radical abundance and technological breakthroughs within our lifetimes.

References
– “Individual Empowerment through Emerging Technologies: Virtual Tools for a Better Physical World” – Video by G. Stolyarov II
– “How Can I Live Forever?: What Does and Does Not Preserve the Self” – Video by G. Stolyarov II

How Collectivism Destroys Friendships and Relationships: Examples from India (2003) – Article by G. Stolyarov II

How Collectivism Destroys Friendships and Relationships: Examples from India (2003) – Article by G. Stolyarov II

The New Renaissance Hat
G. Stolyarov II
July 28, 2014
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Note from the Author: This essay was originally written in 2003 and published on Associated Content (subsequently, Yahoo! Voices) in 2007.  The essay earned over 900 page views on Associated Content/Yahoo! Voices, and I seek to preserve it as a valuable resource for readers, subsequent to the imminent closure of Yahoo! Voices. Therefore, this essay is being published directly on The Rational Argumentator for the first time.  
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~ G. Stolyarov II, July 28, 2014

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Collectivism is not only a primary motivation for oppression and persecution; it also precludes friendship among people despite their individual compatibility. Caste-based prejudices in India provide an optimal illustration of this tendency.

In his memoirs, Indian author Shashi Tharoor recalls, upon a childhood visit to an ancestral village, an untouchable boy by the name of Charlis, who was eager to converse, engage in athletic activity, and share sweets with the higher-caste boys. However, the latter rejected Charlis’s company and threatened Tharoor with a beating to relinquish to the confines of the dirt heap the dessert that Charlis had generously provided him with.

Collectivism curtails both an already existing mutual affinity between two individuals, such as the one between Tharoor and Charlis, and one that would have flourished absent the stereotype, such as that between Charlis and the village boys.

Even the most intimate bonds of all, marriages, are tragically disrupted by the Indian caste system. Several cases have emerged in recent years when upper-caste females married lower-caste males without parental consent. The parents of the upper-caste females responded by lynching the newlyweds and encouraging their village neighbors to publicly humiliate their corpses.

Parents, who would have normally approved of a partnership between two people decently endowed and capable of fending for themselves, are impelled by collectivism to monstrously cut short young lives due to the absurdity of collectivist perception.

Caste is thoroughly ingrained in the general culture of India and in the power-mongering calculus of Indian officials. Hence, despite laws prohibiting caste-based hate crimes, enforcement is scant, and violators of individual rights are granted tacit government sanction for their misdeeds. As violence flares up, the government, instead of coordinating an extensive police and judicial effort to bring the criminals to justice, merely augments the multilateral resentment of India’s caste conflict by reserving further strategic positions for one group at the expense of another.

The atrocities for which the absurdity of collectivism can be held liable extend to stifle the realms of individual aspiration, interpersonal relationships, and  justice, all due to the perception of individuals as entirely determined by circumstantial group status and incapable of altering any of their “inclinations” via volitional efforts.

It is essential for the residents of a peaceful, harmonious, and rights-respecting society to comprehend that, just as a circumstance cannot think for an individual, it cannot deterministically manipulate his actions, that birth or skin color are just as irrelevant to an individual’s character and potential as the color of a building’s bricks is to its structural integrity. Only then can each individual achieve the utmost heights within his capacity and establish profound and productive relationships with others. Justice and liberty are possible where even a single individual carries the rejection of collectivism to its logical extreme.

 

The Superiority of Jane Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice” Over Kate Chopin’s “The Awakening” in Its Discussion of Marriage (2005) – Article by G. Stolyarov II

The Superiority of Jane Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice” Over Kate Chopin’s “The Awakening” in Its Discussion of Marriage (2005) – Article by G. Stolyarov II

The New Renaissance Hat
G. Stolyarov II
July 26, 2014
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Note from the Author: This essay was originally written in 2005 and published  on Associated Content (subsequently, Yahoo! Voices) in 2007.  The essay earned over 3,700 page views on Associated Content/Yahoo! Voices, and I seek to preserve it as a valuable resource for readers, subsequent to the imminent closure of Yahoo! Voices. Therefore, this essay is being published directly on The Rational Argumentator for the first time.  
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~ G. Stolyarov II, July 26, 2014

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Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice discusses the issue of marriage with a far greater depth and diversity of viewpoints than does Kate Chopin’s The Awakening.

In The Awakening, Kate Chopin primarily focuses on Edna Pontellier’s wholesale rejection of the paradigm of marriage and her stepwise abandonment of her husband, children, social contacts, and household obligations. This transformation on Edna’s part ultimately brings about her death by drowning, after she has “liberated” herself from all the forces that had hitherto “restrained” her from swimming out too far. Thus, Chopin, though focusing on and sympathizing with a complete abandonment of marriage, also shows it to result in a highly undesirable end, leaving the reader with no compelling reasons to embrace this, the dominant view of women’s issues in the book.

Jane Austen, on the other hand, offers a far more instructive and relevant text in terms of shaping readers’ views of marriage, as she presents a multiplicity of alternative paradigms on the subject, as well as a compelling case for why one of these, exemplified by the eventual union of Elizabeth and Darcy, is a superior choice to the others. Austen portrays the marriage primarily oriented around domestic security and social reputation in the form of the union of Mr. Collins and Charlotte Lucas, who are both entirely unconcerned about romance and rather focused on presenting a respectable image, especially to social “superiors” like Lady Catherine de Bourgh.

An even more materialistic view of marriage is presented in the form of Lady Catherine’s intentions to have Darcy marry her daughter, for the purpose of unifying their two prosperous estates. Elizabeth, however, upon encountering this view, rejects it as too devoid of considerations of individual happiness.

Austen portrays a dramatically different attitude in the marriage of Lydia and Wickham, who elope out of sheer passion, with Wickham deep in debt and not even contemplating any attempts to improve his material lot in the future. The couple might not even have made provisions for a formal union absent the intervention of Darcy and the Bennet family. Elizabeth finds this paradigm to be humiliating and irresponsible, and thus rejects a purely emotional approach to marriage as well.

In the end, Elizabeth finds a synthesis of material and personal interests in her growing attachment to Mr. Darcy, who is able to offer her his virtues of refinement, benevolence, and intelligence, along with an immensely prosperous estate and high social rank. In contrast to Chopin’s simplistic and ultimately futile altogether rejection of marriage, Austen offers a compelling analysis of all the variations of this institution, and advocates her own view on it as capable of being successful and personally fulfilling by means of the happy ending of the novel. Thus, Pride and Prejudice offers constructive guidance to readers on which approaches to marriage work and which do not, rather than being merely a text that criticizes the institution without offering a positive alternative.